Post by High Priestess on Oct 28, 2015 16:11:16 GMT
Gonçalo shared Oct 28 2015
Guests Chilling in My Living room
Having a family in my house right now. Seems the guy really enjoys my living room instead of the guest living room.
I have a triplex house with 2 living rooms. I live on the ground floor with my girlfriend. We have a big TV for our movie night in our living room.
The guest living room is on the second floor. No TV (because there is another guest room) but with a computer set up which people can use to pass some time if they want.
At the check in I always make sure to tell the gusts that the ground floor is our private space, as it is not shown on the pictures.
But it seems that this guy really likes a lot chilling in my living room watching movies with us even tho his wife and his infant babe is in the room. My girlfriend and I just want some private time at the end of the day on our sofa. This makes things super awkward.
My girlfriend decided to let the "Keeping Up with the Kadashians" running on the TV whole night tonight and see if that can make him go back to the guest zone lol
Let's see what's gonna happen.
Serena
You need to tell him politely that your living room.is private and not part of the guest accommodation.
Gonçalo
yea but they are leaving in 2 days. We don't really want to make things very awkward and results in a bad review ...
Serena
You won't have a bad review if you our polite and firm. Setting boundaries is important. He probably doesn't even realise he's invading your space.
Serena
Maybe invest in a TV for the guest living room. They are not very expensive and what many guests want if they are tired and want to just have a night in.
Gonçalo
Hi Serena, We thought of putting a TV in the guest living room but the problem is there is another guest room right next to the living room. We don't want people to turn up the TV loud while the guest want to rest. That's why we put a computer there as alternative
Queenie & Ted
You just need to FIRMLY tell your guest that your living room is part of your personal private space and not available to guests. It makes it easier if you correct improper behavior at the first instance but since he has already invaded your space, you must confront him and take it back.
You should be very clear in your listing as well that guests have a living room space with no television and what is guest space and what is not. These limits need to be reinforced upon checkin as well. If you are not clear about boundaries, you and your girlfriend will have no privacy!
Keith
It bothered you enough to post in this forum, it's clear you don't want to put up with this for 2 more days.
they should be out enjoying the town or eachother. Just let them know.. you enjoy hosting people, but you need your privacy.
Gonçalo
So here is a little bit of update from last night.
After reading the comments, we decided to let the guests know that the ground floor living room is our private space and we prefer not to be disturbed at night when they are back.
Right after we bumped into them in the kitchen, the wife started the conversation first and asked if they can watch TV in our living room tonight. They just simply really need to escape from the baby a little bit at night. And they were asking if that would be intrusive with puppy eyes looking at us.
Honestly, at that moment we just couldn't say no to them. It seem very fussy that we are not willing to share a TV. After all they are not bad guests. During the conversation we discovered that they don't really have a TV in their own house back home and they can't really do much during the day neither with the 8 month old baby. That's why they were attracted by even the Kadashian program -.-
Pfff. I think we are just gonna let it be. But from the next check in we will be more firmly in emphasizing our own space.
Thanks for all the sound suggestion everybody.
Queenie & Ted
So they know they're intruding and ask anyway!?!? Since you gave them permission, you can't complain about it in their review but you should mention that "Joe and Jane were good guests but better suited for whole listing"
Gonçalo
Hey Quenie, that's a great suggestion! Thanks a lot
Jeannette
Ah, Gonçalo, you need to read Deb's post on not being doormat.
Jeannette
globalhosting.freeforums.net/thread/39/doormat-syndrome-post-andrew
Guests Chilling in My Living room
Having a family in my house right now. Seems the guy really enjoys my living room instead of the guest living room.
I have a triplex house with 2 living rooms. I live on the ground floor with my girlfriend. We have a big TV for our movie night in our living room.
The guest living room is on the second floor. No TV (because there is another guest room) but with a computer set up which people can use to pass some time if they want.
At the check in I always make sure to tell the gusts that the ground floor is our private space, as it is not shown on the pictures.
But it seems that this guy really likes a lot chilling in my living room watching movies with us even tho his wife and his infant babe is in the room. My girlfriend and I just want some private time at the end of the day on our sofa. This makes things super awkward.
My girlfriend decided to let the "Keeping Up with the Kadashians" running on the TV whole night tonight and see if that can make him go back to the guest zone lol
Let's see what's gonna happen.
Serena
You need to tell him politely that your living room.is private and not part of the guest accommodation.
Gonçalo
yea but they are leaving in 2 days. We don't really want to make things very awkward and results in a bad review ...
Serena
You won't have a bad review if you our polite and firm. Setting boundaries is important. He probably doesn't even realise he's invading your space.
Serena
Maybe invest in a TV for the guest living room. They are not very expensive and what many guests want if they are tired and want to just have a night in.
Gonçalo
Hi Serena, We thought of putting a TV in the guest living room but the problem is there is another guest room right next to the living room. We don't want people to turn up the TV loud while the guest want to rest. That's why we put a computer there as alternative
Queenie & Ted
You just need to FIRMLY tell your guest that your living room is part of your personal private space and not available to guests. It makes it easier if you correct improper behavior at the first instance but since he has already invaded your space, you must confront him and take it back.
You should be very clear in your listing as well that guests have a living room space with no television and what is guest space and what is not. These limits need to be reinforced upon checkin as well. If you are not clear about boundaries, you and your girlfriend will have no privacy!
Keith
It bothered you enough to post in this forum, it's clear you don't want to put up with this for 2 more days.
they should be out enjoying the town or eachother. Just let them know.. you enjoy hosting people, but you need your privacy.
Gonçalo
So here is a little bit of update from last night.
After reading the comments, we decided to let the guests know that the ground floor living room is our private space and we prefer not to be disturbed at night when they are back.
Right after we bumped into them in the kitchen, the wife started the conversation first and asked if they can watch TV in our living room tonight. They just simply really need to escape from the baby a little bit at night. And they were asking if that would be intrusive with puppy eyes looking at us.
Honestly, at that moment we just couldn't say no to them. It seem very fussy that we are not willing to share a TV. After all they are not bad guests. During the conversation we discovered that they don't really have a TV in their own house back home and they can't really do much during the day neither with the 8 month old baby. That's why they were attracted by even the Kadashian program -.-
Pfff. I think we are just gonna let it be. But from the next check in we will be more firmly in emphasizing our own space.
Thanks for all the sound suggestion everybody.
Queenie & Ted
So they know they're intruding and ask anyway!?!? Since you gave them permission, you can't complain about it in their review but you should mention that "Joe and Jane were good guests but better suited for whole listing"
Gonçalo
Hey Quenie, that's a great suggestion! Thanks a lot
Jeannette
Ah, Gonçalo, you need to read Deb's post on not being doormat.
Jeannette
globalhosting.freeforums.net/thread/39/doormat-syndrome-post-andrew