Post by High Priestess on Oct 25, 2015 10:23:40 GMT
Eli shared Oct 24 2015
Strong perfume
Hi,I currently have two very nice guests who are very quiet, they get up very early and make sure not to make any noise to avoid waking me up.The problem is that the lady wears a very strong perfume and I wake up because of the smell. Even hours after she leaves, the smell remains all over the place.How can I let her know without making feel bad or me looking like a complainant.I really like them and do not have any other problem with them, but sometimes the smell gives me headaches. I will appreciate your suggestions.
Anne
Let it go. It's one of the aspects of hosting.
Rose
I agree with Anne. Whatever you say to her now may be taken as an insult.
In the future maybe you can put something in your description or maybe just when you greet them upon arrival just say: "Here is the bathroom, here is your room, do whatever you want, but I have to ask if possible that you avoid heavy perfumes as I am prone to headaches". That way you're telling them before they've been living with you and it won't be taken as an insult.
I work with a lady who is very nice, but must bathe in vanilla. Once in a while if I haven't seen her in a long time she wants to hug me...and then I smell like a candle for the rest of the day until I can get home to my shower.
Eli
Thank you Anne and Rose, I guess it would be best to just let it go.
Eli
Needless to say that I am very grateful to have them as my guests.
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helga (helgaparis)
You can always say "so sorry, I'm allergic to one of the components of your perfume. Such a pitty as it's such a nice fragrance"
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Jeannette (jvo)
Yeah, I couldn't let it go, that stanky stuff triggers my asthma. Have a nice talk with her about fragrances, apologizing for it not being in your current house manual but noting you'll add it in the future.
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Barbara
Burn a candle that is an odor counteractant.
Serafina
I would totally say something along the lines of what Helga suggested. Be upfront and kind, owning your own lack of foresight in naming this ahead of time.
Margo
If your guest will stay for short time let it go and burn a match, the sulfur will dissipate the scent.
Simon
If your guests are staying for short then put up with it otherwise talk to them if it's really bothering you but they might say why you haven't mentioned that you are allergic of strong perfumes in one way or another so you have to be prepare to receive any questions from your guests but if they are nice and are friendly they would understand your point as I would certainly may be put on my perfume when I get out of the house a so do like a lot of perfumes on myself but I remember once my partner said you smell a lot of perfume :-(
Deborah (High Priestess)
I most definitely do NOT allow use of perfume or cologne, or any such toxic chemicals, in my house. I state this clearly in my house rules, and any guests wearing perfume are thus in violation of my house rules and may be asked to leave.
Perfumes and colognes, just like the ridiculously termed "air fresheners", are full of toxic chemicals -- petroleum products. They are bad for your health.
See here about the problems of perfume use in public environments:
healthimpactnews.com/2014/secondhand-fragrance-contamination-a-public-health-problem/
Strong perfume
Hi,I currently have two very nice guests who are very quiet, they get up very early and make sure not to make any noise to avoid waking me up.The problem is that the lady wears a very strong perfume and I wake up because of the smell. Even hours after she leaves, the smell remains all over the place.How can I let her know without making feel bad or me looking like a complainant.I really like them and do not have any other problem with them, but sometimes the smell gives me headaches. I will appreciate your suggestions.
Anne
Let it go. It's one of the aspects of hosting.
Rose
I agree with Anne. Whatever you say to her now may be taken as an insult.
In the future maybe you can put something in your description or maybe just when you greet them upon arrival just say: "Here is the bathroom, here is your room, do whatever you want, but I have to ask if possible that you avoid heavy perfumes as I am prone to headaches". That way you're telling them before they've been living with you and it won't be taken as an insult.
I work with a lady who is very nice, but must bathe in vanilla. Once in a while if I haven't seen her in a long time she wants to hug me...and then I smell like a candle for the rest of the day until I can get home to my shower.
Eli
Thank you Anne and Rose, I guess it would be best to just let it go.
Eli
Needless to say that I am very grateful to have them as my guests.
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helga (helgaparis)
You can always say "so sorry, I'm allergic to one of the components of your perfume. Such a pitty as it's such a nice fragrance"
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Jeannette (jvo)
Yeah, I couldn't let it go, that stanky stuff triggers my asthma. Have a nice talk with her about fragrances, apologizing for it not being in your current house manual but noting you'll add it in the future.
Reply Like
Barbara
Burn a candle that is an odor counteractant.
Serafina
I would totally say something along the lines of what Helga suggested. Be upfront and kind, owning your own lack of foresight in naming this ahead of time.
Margo
If your guest will stay for short time let it go and burn a match, the sulfur will dissipate the scent.
Simon
If your guests are staying for short then put up with it otherwise talk to them if it's really bothering you but they might say why you haven't mentioned that you are allergic of strong perfumes in one way or another so you have to be prepare to receive any questions from your guests but if they are nice and are friendly they would understand your point as I would certainly may be put on my perfume when I get out of the house a so do like a lot of perfumes on myself but I remember once my partner said you smell a lot of perfume :-(
Deborah (High Priestess)
I most definitely do NOT allow use of perfume or cologne, or any such toxic chemicals, in my house. I state this clearly in my house rules, and any guests wearing perfume are thus in violation of my house rules and may be asked to leave.
Perfumes and colognes, just like the ridiculously termed "air fresheners", are full of toxic chemicals -- petroleum products. They are bad for your health.
See here about the problems of perfume use in public environments:
healthimpactnews.com/2014/secondhand-fragrance-contamination-a-public-health-problem/