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Post by carolyn on May 24, 2016 21:36:41 GMT
Hi everyone! I am not sure what to do or if I should do anything. This is a very strange problem. My tenants have the duplex next to mine; behind their unit is my Airbnb studio. My tenants are great and have never had problems vis a vis my Airbnb guests.
One tenant asked if her very ill mom could stay with them for a while, and of course I said yes. Sadly, this woman is dying.
My tenant's brother told me today that she will likely die here within a short time. I suppose this means it's a matter of days. I hadn't realized that she would pass away here.
The mother is staying in my tenants' back room, which isn't far from my Airbnb unit.
Despite the sadness -- I met the mom some time ago and she's lovely -- I have to admit that one of my first thoughts concerned my Airbnb guests. Specifically, what if the lady passes away and my guests see her being transferred?
I know this is so morbid, and chances are that the timing would not occur just as my guests happen to be arriving or leaving. Yet, if I were a guest myself, it would be disquieting to see a coroner visit the premises while I'm staying there.
I thought of saying to my guests: "Just for your information, my tenant has her elderly mom staying in the back room. You may see relatives come and go, but it won't affect your stay."
I don't even know what that means, but it's the best I can come up with!! Or maybe the best thing is to say nothing about it.
Help!
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Post by Maria Lurdes (Milu) on May 24, 2016 22:02:14 GMT
Eeesh! That is an awkward situation. I grew up with a very practical (and maybe a bit cold) mother, and if she was a guest arriving to check in while a coroner wheels a body out the back, she's say 'oh the poor thing, her time has come" and then she'd bustle around not giving it another thought. Death is as much a part of her day as her morning tea, so it doesn't faze her. So I grew up with this influence, and while it would sadden me - not feeling sad for the dead person that I didn't know, but feeling sad for the family who'd mourn her. But I'd feel sad, then get on with my life and maybe enjoy the blessing of the day a bit more having just had a reminder of my mortality.
I think that setting up the situation by telling incoming guests that a relative of your tenant is in hospice care in their apartment and leave it at that. Your very kind to be considering the feelings of your tenant and your guests.
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Post by carolyn on May 24, 2016 22:27:50 GMT
Oh thank you Milu; that is so helpful! I feel better. I'll do as you suggest. My guests arrived without incident, but once we were in the unit I told them quietly, "My tenant's mom is ill and staying with them, so you may see relatives come and go. Just wanted to let you know." So, I guess I handled it pretty much as I had planned, but I really like your suggestion re: saying that my tenant's mom is on hospice care. I will use that explanation with my next guests if the situation is still the same. Thanks!!!
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Post by helgaparis on May 25, 2016 19:49:16 GMT
The guests don't know the mother, I don't think it will affect them. If you live in a city, hou have good chances that one of the neighbours dies from time to time. Even young people can die from heart attacks or accidents. As you told her that she is sick, they may guess what happens when doctors and police come. (I don't know for your country, but in France the doctor has to call other doctors for the death certificate and police as witnesses or for whatever. I have no clear souvenir of that hour but there were six or more people inthe room for a while with medical equipment, forms and some in uniform. if an old or terminally ill person dies at home, you don't want to have an autopsy (if not for science) and that means more formalities at home. The men from the funeral home came later, there is an obligatory delay betwen declaration of death and transport)
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