Post by High Priestess on Oct 29, 2015 10:38:35 GMT
Ella shared Oct 29 2015:
Funny guest
I am just curious, have any of you ever hosted any guests who tried making sexual advance toward hosts?? If that happens, what are the best and polite way to decline??
C C
With a frying pan
Clare
C C you're funny! At my age, it would be a compliment (I think?)!
C C
Clare, you gotta help us coordinate our sleepover! Meeting at my place, the only one in the world with train tracks running straight through it!!
Clare
I like trains!!
C C
Just you wait, Clare!!
C C
C C10 hours ago
How would you like to be the host to 100 hosts?!
Clare
Wouldn't it be a hoot to get all the regulars in one place?! OMG, what a fun party that would be!
Deanna
AAAALLLLLL Aboard!!!
Linda
Make sure you swing past SE Tex
C C
Oh, Linda's gonna host it!!
Linda
I'm trying to say swing by to pick me up -- I want to get ride there on the train.
C C
Oh no, Linda! You've volunteered to host it!!!
Margaret
Baseball bat. Unless it's Robert Redford.
Ella
I will take a younger version of him Margaret!!
Margaret
Lol
Fiona
With a taser, unless it's Colin Firth.
Ella
I am sure vast majority of people are polite would not wish to harm but there is always what if. My husband travel a lot for his work and I feel somewhat insecure to host stranger in my house when husband is not home.
Fiona
Well Ella, keep a frying pan, baseball bat and taser close at hand but you can also accept women only and/or block off the dates on your calendar that your husband will be away from home so you don't have guests if you are not comfortable. It's no fun for you nor for the guest if you are uneasy with them being there. Good luck to you.
Ella
Thank you Fiona, that makes sense but also hard to give up fairly easy money!!
Fiona
You're welcome. Sure, but I think you'll find (I did) that you start to get a sense about people when they are booking after you've been hosting for a while. Then, once you are more sure of yourself and at ease you can take all comers. The key is in the communication beforehand I think and it took me about six months to feel like I'd really gotten it. Reading the posts on this forum was a HUGE education!
Susan
Hey, girls can come on to other girls. Although my gay guests have been some of my best guests.
C C
There were phases of my life when I wouldn't have done Airbnb or had roommates at all.
Fiona
Absolutely.
Linda
With a pot of hot grits unless its Denzel Washington!
C C
Well, come on with it, Tex!! Had to look & see where you're from!
Linda
Could not resist the charm southern ladies.
Trine
Dear Ella. I' m not a live in host, l rent my hole apartment. But l would reject the guest the same way l do enerywhere else. And if you are uncomfortable, then you might rethink the hole renting out business.... Best of luck...
Ella
Thanks trine, I love the whole get to meet new people, talk to them and all... Just the insecurity part of that and wondered if anyone out there have experienced such guests.
Deanna
Ella You need to work on your listing. You have absolutely no information about yourself. Look at some of the host's profiles that have been doing this awhile. (everyone who responded to your thread). Consider posting a photo with you and your husband. There is no need for any guest to know when your husband is there or not, and if you have a photo with him in it, it will keep away the biggest weirdos. Tell people something about yourself, without being too revealing or accomodating. Consider taking MUCH better photos, in better light with a better camera. Make up the bed so it doesn't have any wrinkles. Etc. Read everything that is on the Airbnb site regarding hosting suggestions.
Ella
Thank you so much Deanna! We just started this and are looking to improve and research what it takes to be a good host. We haven't have guests yet and haven't even looked into if the local government allow us to have guests in house and what the tax thing goes.. We really appreciate you pointing out our lack of properly presenting ourselves as good host! Thank you again!
Deborah
I was a little uneasy too when my husband was away, but accepted a male guest and he was great. I did put a small lock on my door. Wouldn't stop anyone but made me feel a little better. But if you don't feel comfortable, you might want to just accept females or couples while he will be away.
Ella
Thank you Deborah. That is what I am thinking about doing.
Raymond & Elaine
When guests arrive especially if they are single men , you don't have to say that your husband is out of town. Maintain a professional attitude. Be a little distant, no inuendos, no sexy dressing, in fact nothing that can be even lightly considered as flirting. If after that anything inappropriate is said or actions, then deal with it immediately and firmly. You can say that you will contact airbnb for them to be re-housed. I think its very rare that this happens but you're right to anticipate what you will do if it should. Maybe you could change your profile picture by putting a photo of you and your husband and include his name too. Good luck.
Ella
Thank you so much Raymond and Elaine.. That is a very good advice.
Rachel
If it were Hugh Jackman I would probably rip the lock off my bedroom door! But for anyone else, a firm "don't even think about it" should do the trick.
Raymond & Elaine
Donny Osmond or Sean Connery would do it for me. I'd let Stephen Fry stay for free too, I might have to lock the bedroom door though to keep Raymond safe.
Lisa
I met Sean Connery at the pub a few years ago during Festival and Jaysus he's tall!! He's really starting to show his age too. He'll always be a sex symbol but I was very surprised at how aged he looked.
Raymond & Elaine
He's 85 now, but I'll keep him at around 60-65 in my mind. He just got better and better with age.Like a good whisky.
Deanna
Benecio Del Toro or Russell Brand. I know, I'm a weirdo.
Jeannette
<3 Stephen Fry. Killingly funny. And he can bring his 19-y.o. or whatever he is, husband.
Ella
All of you guys are so funny! Some of you made me laugh so hard, I may have peed on my underwear!!
Clare
The risk of reading these forums, I'm afraid!
Rhonda
Aloha Ella....speaking of almost peeing in your underware, mattress protector solutions should be tops on that list of yours in preparations for your first guest. I am a not so bad looking widow. I have no fears, but have found my male guests are usually the busiest away from the home with their activities or business travel. I also agree with Susan, I've enjoyed fantastic good times with gay men. Sexual preferences has never been a topic in this land of business, but they are extremely tidy, good natured with lots of laughs, and totally self-sufficient. I personally think a large portion of single females are much more demanding guests and want to be your bff (best friend forever), bake together, and the list goes on and on.
C C
Airbnb is a kick cuz it's the first time me being me has ever paid off. No woman has ever come on to me, no person has ever offered me pot in my life, and no woman has ever wanted to bake with me!! Yay me!!
Rhonda
C C.....now you reminded me of a time a quite elderly lady made suggestive comments towards me. Her traveling partner (female) was not interested and had gone to bed. I was totally clueless as to what this lady was suggesting, stated I didn't understand what she was saying, she started to explain, I responded, Oh, I'll have to google that some day, but I'll let you get some rest, I've got some work to catch up on. THAT was an experience my selective memory had forgotten a long time ago.
Rhonda
another reason why gay guys make good guests, no agenda, and dang!! they know how to cook yummy stuff to share with their hosts.
C C
Haha, Rhonda!!
Susan
I find a semi-auro 45 pistol is a swell deterrent. Heck of a confidence builder too.
Raymond & Elaine
It's Annie Flippin Oakley !
C C
Ella, that profile pic is SO MUCH BETTER!!!
Rachel
Well, I've just had a booking enquiry from Jesus! Seriously, that's his name. Sadly he's not planning on coming for Christmas, but at least if I get one of these people knocking on the door asking me "have you found Jesus?" I'll be able to say "Yup, he's on the top floor."
Lisa
Ha ha Rachel! I'd venture he's of on Spain or one of the Americas. Super common name there. I know loads of Jesus' (pronounced Haysoos in case you've never heard the name before:-) It really is a very very common name in heavily Hispanic areas, especially North, South and Central America.
Raymond & Elaine
Be careful if he only books for one and three others turn up. If Melchior Caspar et Balthazar arrive check that they leave pets outside. Camels can make an awful mess.
Funny guest
I am just curious, have any of you ever hosted any guests who tried making sexual advance toward hosts?? If that happens, what are the best and polite way to decline??
C C
With a frying pan
Clare
C C you're funny! At my age, it would be a compliment (I think?)!
C C
Clare, you gotta help us coordinate our sleepover! Meeting at my place, the only one in the world with train tracks running straight through it!!
Clare
I like trains!!
C C
Just you wait, Clare!!
C C
C C10 hours ago
How would you like to be the host to 100 hosts?!
Clare
Wouldn't it be a hoot to get all the regulars in one place?! OMG, what a fun party that would be!
Deanna
AAAALLLLLL Aboard!!!
Linda
Make sure you swing past SE Tex
C C
Oh, Linda's gonna host it!!
Linda
I'm trying to say swing by to pick me up -- I want to get ride there on the train.
C C
Oh no, Linda! You've volunteered to host it!!!
Margaret
Baseball bat. Unless it's Robert Redford.
Ella
I will take a younger version of him Margaret!!
Margaret
Lol
Fiona
With a taser, unless it's Colin Firth.
Ella
I am sure vast majority of people are polite would not wish to harm but there is always what if. My husband travel a lot for his work and I feel somewhat insecure to host stranger in my house when husband is not home.
Fiona
Well Ella, keep a frying pan, baseball bat and taser close at hand but you can also accept women only and/or block off the dates on your calendar that your husband will be away from home so you don't have guests if you are not comfortable. It's no fun for you nor for the guest if you are uneasy with them being there. Good luck to you.
Ella
Thank you Fiona, that makes sense but also hard to give up fairly easy money!!
Fiona
You're welcome. Sure, but I think you'll find (I did) that you start to get a sense about people when they are booking after you've been hosting for a while. Then, once you are more sure of yourself and at ease you can take all comers. The key is in the communication beforehand I think and it took me about six months to feel like I'd really gotten it. Reading the posts on this forum was a HUGE education!
Susan
Hey, girls can come on to other girls. Although my gay guests have been some of my best guests.
C C
There were phases of my life when I wouldn't have done Airbnb or had roommates at all.
Fiona
Absolutely.
Linda
With a pot of hot grits unless its Denzel Washington!
C C
Well, come on with it, Tex!! Had to look & see where you're from!
Linda
Could not resist the charm southern ladies.
Trine
Dear Ella. I' m not a live in host, l rent my hole apartment. But l would reject the guest the same way l do enerywhere else. And if you are uncomfortable, then you might rethink the hole renting out business.... Best of luck...
Ella
Thanks trine, I love the whole get to meet new people, talk to them and all... Just the insecurity part of that and wondered if anyone out there have experienced such guests.
Deanna
Ella You need to work on your listing. You have absolutely no information about yourself. Look at some of the host's profiles that have been doing this awhile. (everyone who responded to your thread). Consider posting a photo with you and your husband. There is no need for any guest to know when your husband is there or not, and if you have a photo with him in it, it will keep away the biggest weirdos. Tell people something about yourself, without being too revealing or accomodating. Consider taking MUCH better photos, in better light with a better camera. Make up the bed so it doesn't have any wrinkles. Etc. Read everything that is on the Airbnb site regarding hosting suggestions.
Ella
Thank you so much Deanna! We just started this and are looking to improve and research what it takes to be a good host. We haven't have guests yet and haven't even looked into if the local government allow us to have guests in house and what the tax thing goes.. We really appreciate you pointing out our lack of properly presenting ourselves as good host! Thank you again!
Deborah
I was a little uneasy too when my husband was away, but accepted a male guest and he was great. I did put a small lock on my door. Wouldn't stop anyone but made me feel a little better. But if you don't feel comfortable, you might want to just accept females or couples while he will be away.
Ella
Thank you Deborah. That is what I am thinking about doing.
Raymond & Elaine
When guests arrive especially if they are single men , you don't have to say that your husband is out of town. Maintain a professional attitude. Be a little distant, no inuendos, no sexy dressing, in fact nothing that can be even lightly considered as flirting. If after that anything inappropriate is said or actions, then deal with it immediately and firmly. You can say that you will contact airbnb for them to be re-housed. I think its very rare that this happens but you're right to anticipate what you will do if it should. Maybe you could change your profile picture by putting a photo of you and your husband and include his name too. Good luck.
Ella
Thank you so much Raymond and Elaine.. That is a very good advice.
Rachel
If it were Hugh Jackman I would probably rip the lock off my bedroom door! But for anyone else, a firm "don't even think about it" should do the trick.
Raymond & Elaine
Donny Osmond or Sean Connery would do it for me. I'd let Stephen Fry stay for free too, I might have to lock the bedroom door though to keep Raymond safe.
Lisa
I met Sean Connery at the pub a few years ago during Festival and Jaysus he's tall!! He's really starting to show his age too. He'll always be a sex symbol but I was very surprised at how aged he looked.
Raymond & Elaine
He's 85 now, but I'll keep him at around 60-65 in my mind. He just got better and better with age.Like a good whisky.
Deanna
Benecio Del Toro or Russell Brand. I know, I'm a weirdo.
Jeannette
<3 Stephen Fry. Killingly funny. And he can bring his 19-y.o. or whatever he is, husband.
Ella
All of you guys are so funny! Some of you made me laugh so hard, I may have peed on my underwear!!
Clare
The risk of reading these forums, I'm afraid!
Rhonda
Aloha Ella....speaking of almost peeing in your underware, mattress protector solutions should be tops on that list of yours in preparations for your first guest. I am a not so bad looking widow. I have no fears, but have found my male guests are usually the busiest away from the home with their activities or business travel. I also agree with Susan, I've enjoyed fantastic good times with gay men. Sexual preferences has never been a topic in this land of business, but they are extremely tidy, good natured with lots of laughs, and totally self-sufficient. I personally think a large portion of single females are much more demanding guests and want to be your bff (best friend forever), bake together, and the list goes on and on.
C C
Airbnb is a kick cuz it's the first time me being me has ever paid off. No woman has ever come on to me, no person has ever offered me pot in my life, and no woman has ever wanted to bake with me!! Yay me!!
Rhonda
C C.....now you reminded me of a time a quite elderly lady made suggestive comments towards me. Her traveling partner (female) was not interested and had gone to bed. I was totally clueless as to what this lady was suggesting, stated I didn't understand what she was saying, she started to explain, I responded, Oh, I'll have to google that some day, but I'll let you get some rest, I've got some work to catch up on. THAT was an experience my selective memory had forgotten a long time ago.
Rhonda
another reason why gay guys make good guests, no agenda, and dang!! they know how to cook yummy stuff to share with their hosts.
C C
Haha, Rhonda!!
Susan
I find a semi-auro 45 pistol is a swell deterrent. Heck of a confidence builder too.
Raymond & Elaine
It's Annie Flippin Oakley !
C C
Ella, that profile pic is SO MUCH BETTER!!!
Rachel
Well, I've just had a booking enquiry from Jesus! Seriously, that's his name. Sadly he's not planning on coming for Christmas, but at least if I get one of these people knocking on the door asking me "have you found Jesus?" I'll be able to say "Yup, he's on the top floor."
Lisa
Ha ha Rachel! I'd venture he's of on Spain or one of the Americas. Super common name there. I know loads of Jesus' (pronounced Haysoos in case you've never heard the name before:-) It really is a very very common name in heavily Hispanic areas, especially North, South and Central America.
Raymond & Elaine
Be careful if he only books for one and three others turn up. If Melchior Caspar et Balthazar arrive check that they leave pets outside. Camels can make an awful mess.
