Post by High Priestess on Oct 5, 2015 11:43:24 GMT
Celia shared in OCtober 2015
Accepting male guests
Now i know this may be a difficult topic and may even seem contraversial. I am a new host. I am am letting my spare room, however, I am 23 and live alone. I am not happy with accepting male guests on their own. Is this wrong? I was wondering if you could help me answer these questions?
1. Is anyone else in this situation?
2. Because i am declining requests (single males), will it impact on my advert- does it go lower down in the list?
3. Is there a way of filtering requests to only females? I have written it in one of the boxes but obviously that isn't enough.
Thanks in advance
Lisa:
Hi, I am also a single female host. I have LOTS of single male guests and they are my absolute favourite! Clean, quiet, respectful and are always busy out and about doing things. The worst that I've ever experienced is the toilet seat being left up.
If you want to host only females, just state that in your listing. You need to feel comfortable at home.
Kim:
Most important you are safe and comfortable. I would add it to your house rules, other things to note, description, everywhere so less single men inquire. Yes if you are declining more than you are accepting it will push you lower in the search results. If you are declining a few I don't think it effects your ranking status. I have had single men stay with us as well and have not had any problems.
Deborah:
This has actually been brought up many times before, and it is not an unusual thing and it is not wrong. Many women choose to do as you do, and it's legal as long as you are having the guest stay in your own home where you live and not in an entire separate apartment.
Do make it very clear in your listing description and house rules about your place being suitable for women and couples only.
If you have to decline many inquiries, that could effect your search placement and more so if you have to decline inappropriate reservatoin requests, but there is a new drop down menu when you decline reservation requests that allows you to say why you are declining, and if you do it for a good reason, such as guest wants to bring persons (such as themselves) whom you don't allow, you are not
"dinged" for the decline.
Laura:
I choose not to host male guests who travel on their own. I would just put a line in your description.
Celia:
Thank you everyone. You have given me things to think about. Maube once i build up confidence i will accept guys.
C C:
After a spate of horrible women, I have just put in my listings NO MORE WOMEN!!! Give me GUYS, GUYS, GUYS!!!!
Katherine:
I was like you at first but I have now decided to accept men who have good reviews and I have had no problems at all. Same as others - all the lone males have been clean and tidy, quie and left lovely reviews, women are more picky in my experience!
Sheryl:
If you want to host only women, I encourage you to use language throughout your listing that, rather than expressly excluding men, is most inviting to women. For example, I think the first words a reader should in the section titled “About this listing are “Perfect for the solo woman traveler! “ Other suggested language to be sprinkled throughout the listing “I am happy to welcome women traveling on their own and can offer several suggestions for safely enjoying this flourishing arts community.” “Extra amenities for the woman traveler include complimentary makeup remover towelettes, terry slipper and robe for use during your stay and emergency personal products.” “Athletic women will enjoy the local gyms. Some offer “pay as you go” membership and are open 24 hours a day.” (I read that on the web after a search for gyms in Leeds!
) "This guest space has been especially designed with the needs of the single, female traveler in mind."
I think you get the idea.
Renee:
Your situation isn't uncommon but I screen males the same as female. Decline if he's not reviewed yet, bu take the risk if he's well reviewed. My male guests take short showers, don't cook or use the kitchen & don't demand much. I seen a few female hosts near me who state they don't take male or hetero male travelers; these hosts aren't consistently booked. Put a lock on your door if not installed already.
Jessa:
I'm reluctant to hosting pairs of straight male friends as they tend to get drunk and confident - single males, minus the odd Asian (yes I said it) single male requiring a mother figure are easy. Like you I'm a young female in a university town and I lock my door with straight males but that's about it. The older businessman/professor can be a little harder to host as a young single female, though that seems to be them being uneasy sharing my shower more than me being uneasy with them. The dangerous or dodgy ones usually aren't the ones you'd think they'd be. Your home, your emotions, your decision, whatever feels right for you!
Rhonda:
Everyone of my single male guests have been absolutely fantastic (well except one that was a nut case anyway without my help). A couple weeks ago I had taken ONE day for a hair appointment expecting my next guests to arrive after 6 pm. The single male guest emailed me, was quite worried and actually made the remaining bed and freshened the bath. I was actually stuck in a road closure due to floods, my guests arrived on time approaching from the opposite direction. That was quite an experience and a gift to me from the universe. Both arriving guests stated how perfect everything was although the credit had to be given to another. The other fun part of single males is that they are mostly on business or scientists. I love to hear the scientific reasons they come to help our planet, and the business ones are rarely seen due to their internet work, etc. They have all been exceptionally clean and courteous. I even have an open loft with no doors. I've never felt at risk.
Oh my gosh!!! and the gay males are the absolutely rewarding. Talk about fashion, decorating, no agenda, tons of laughs. I think single women are expecting and requiring more of my personal time that is not so fun for me or educational.
Accepting male guests
Now i know this may be a difficult topic and may even seem contraversial. I am a new host. I am am letting my spare room, however, I am 23 and live alone. I am not happy with accepting male guests on their own. Is this wrong? I was wondering if you could help me answer these questions?
1. Is anyone else in this situation?
2. Because i am declining requests (single males), will it impact on my advert- does it go lower down in the list?
3. Is there a way of filtering requests to only females? I have written it in one of the boxes but obviously that isn't enough.
Thanks in advance
Lisa:
Hi, I am also a single female host. I have LOTS of single male guests and they are my absolute favourite! Clean, quiet, respectful and are always busy out and about doing things. The worst that I've ever experienced is the toilet seat being left up.
If you want to host only females, just state that in your listing. You need to feel comfortable at home.
Kim:
Most important you are safe and comfortable. I would add it to your house rules, other things to note, description, everywhere so less single men inquire. Yes if you are declining more than you are accepting it will push you lower in the search results. If you are declining a few I don't think it effects your ranking status. I have had single men stay with us as well and have not had any problems.
Deborah:
This has actually been brought up many times before, and it is not an unusual thing and it is not wrong. Many women choose to do as you do, and it's legal as long as you are having the guest stay in your own home where you live and not in an entire separate apartment.
Do make it very clear in your listing description and house rules about your place being suitable for women and couples only.
If you have to decline many inquiries, that could effect your search placement and more so if you have to decline inappropriate reservatoin requests, but there is a new drop down menu when you decline reservation requests that allows you to say why you are declining, and if you do it for a good reason, such as guest wants to bring persons (such as themselves) whom you don't allow, you are not
"dinged" for the decline.
Laura:
I choose not to host male guests who travel on their own. I would just put a line in your description.
Celia:
Thank you everyone. You have given me things to think about. Maube once i build up confidence i will accept guys.
C C:
After a spate of horrible women, I have just put in my listings NO MORE WOMEN!!! Give me GUYS, GUYS, GUYS!!!!
Katherine:
I was like you at first but I have now decided to accept men who have good reviews and I have had no problems at all. Same as others - all the lone males have been clean and tidy, quie and left lovely reviews, women are more picky in my experience!
Sheryl:
If you want to host only women, I encourage you to use language throughout your listing that, rather than expressly excluding men, is most inviting to women. For example, I think the first words a reader should in the section titled “About this listing are “Perfect for the solo woman traveler! “ Other suggested language to be sprinkled throughout the listing “I am happy to welcome women traveling on their own and can offer several suggestions for safely enjoying this flourishing arts community.” “Extra amenities for the woman traveler include complimentary makeup remover towelettes, terry slipper and robe for use during your stay and emergency personal products.” “Athletic women will enjoy the local gyms. Some offer “pay as you go” membership and are open 24 hours a day.” (I read that on the web after a search for gyms in Leeds!
) "This guest space has been especially designed with the needs of the single, female traveler in mind." I think you get the idea.
Renee:
Your situation isn't uncommon but I screen males the same as female. Decline if he's not reviewed yet, bu take the risk if he's well reviewed. My male guests take short showers, don't cook or use the kitchen & don't demand much. I seen a few female hosts near me who state they don't take male or hetero male travelers; these hosts aren't consistently booked. Put a lock on your door if not installed already.
Jessa:
I'm reluctant to hosting pairs of straight male friends as they tend to get drunk and confident - single males, minus the odd Asian (yes I said it) single male requiring a mother figure are easy. Like you I'm a young female in a university town and I lock my door with straight males but that's about it. The older businessman/professor can be a little harder to host as a young single female, though that seems to be them being uneasy sharing my shower more than me being uneasy with them. The dangerous or dodgy ones usually aren't the ones you'd think they'd be. Your home, your emotions, your decision, whatever feels right for you!
Rhonda:
Everyone of my single male guests have been absolutely fantastic (well except one that was a nut case anyway without my help). A couple weeks ago I had taken ONE day for a hair appointment expecting my next guests to arrive after 6 pm. The single male guest emailed me, was quite worried and actually made the remaining bed and freshened the bath. I was actually stuck in a road closure due to floods, my guests arrived on time approaching from the opposite direction. That was quite an experience and a gift to me from the universe. Both arriving guests stated how perfect everything was although the credit had to be given to another. The other fun part of single males is that they are mostly on business or scientists. I love to hear the scientific reasons they come to help our planet, and the business ones are rarely seen due to their internet work, etc. They have all been exceptionally clean and courteous. I even have an open loft with no doors. I've never felt at risk.
Oh my gosh!!! and the gay males are the absolutely rewarding. Talk about fashion, decorating, no agenda, tons of laughs. I think single women are expecting and requiring more of my personal time that is not so fun for me or educational.
