Post by High Priestess on Oct 27, 2015 18:07:05 GMT
Daniel shared Oct 27 2015
Red Flags and Honesty
Just had a request for a date in our 5-person apartment for 5 people. In
her email she mentioned her family by name, and I counted 6 people. I
asked her to clarify, and she wrote back that it was actually 7 people. She told me "not to worry," because 5 of them
were kids and that they were very clean. Wow. So many red flags: the
deceitful initial request, the insistence that the extra 2 people is
"not a problem" (maybe for her, but not for me!), and her saying that
the fact that they were kids makes them less messy than adults (not an argument I've heard before). I had to deny their request. If they had been upfront about their party size, I might have made an exception, but they were clearly trying to be less than honest about it.
Nic and Rach (Nic & Rach)
I agree with you those red flags will definitely give you a headache guests have to be clear in their enquiries or request specially if they have kids in the group or family and we all know that if something happens and those kids got hurt in and they are not listed as a guests. Then that would be scary.. Thanks for posting and sharing... Take care
Lisa
You did great sticking to your guns with denying them. I completely agree, those that think your rules or boundaries don't apply to them prove themselves to be nightmares most of the time.
Can't believe she had the nerve to say, don't worry about 5 of them being kids!! Ha ha, you dodged a great big bullet!
Hope she doesn't catch on and try to gaslight another host by lying about the number of people in her next request.
Deborah (High Priestess)
Your guests sound like a new "bad type" -- which I will now add to my "types" of guests you don't want --this is the NINTH type of guest you dont' want on my list. I'll call this one the "It wont' be a problem!" type, or IWBAP for short. Here's how it goes with them:
Your house rules say no shoes. IWBAP says, "Oh, it won't be a problem if I wear my shoes in your house, as they aren't dirty!"
Your house rules say no smoking in the house. IWBAP guest sits inside your house smoking, holding the cigarette up to an open window, and says ,when you Remind them there is no smoking in your home, "Oh, it won't be a problem, because I'm holding the cigarette by the window!"
Your house rules say clean up after yourself when you use the kitchen, put all dishes away when you are done with the kitchen. Your IWBAP guest put several dirty dishes in the sink, walks out of the kitchen. You go and say, "Excuse me, you can't leave a sink full of dirty dishes, house rules state dishes must be cleaned and put away." IWBAP guest replies, "Oh, it won't be a problem, I will get to those in about an hour, as soon as I finish doing my emails!"
Your house rules say guests cannot bring visitors into the house, not even for a short period of time. You come home one day, and find two strangers in your home, and discover that your IWBAP guest has brought two friends into your house. You tell this guest that this is not allowed, and the IWBAP guest replies, "Oh, it won't be a problem! They will only be here for about another 45 minutes while we have tea in the kitchen! THen we'll be off on our merry little way!"
After this series of IWBAP's, it is now time to send IWBAP guest on her merry way....out of your house.
Red Flags and Honesty
Just had a request for a date in our 5-person apartment for 5 people. In
her email she mentioned her family by name, and I counted 6 people. I
asked her to clarify, and she wrote back that it was actually 7 people. She told me "not to worry," because 5 of them
were kids and that they were very clean. Wow. So many red flags: the
deceitful initial request, the insistence that the extra 2 people is
"not a problem" (maybe for her, but not for me!), and her saying that
the fact that they were kids makes them less messy than adults (not an argument I've heard before). I had to deny their request. If they had been upfront about their party size, I might have made an exception, but they were clearly trying to be less than honest about it.
Nic and Rach (Nic & Rach)
I agree with you those red flags will definitely give you a headache guests have to be clear in their enquiries or request specially if they have kids in the group or family and we all know that if something happens and those kids got hurt in and they are not listed as a guests. Then that would be scary.. Thanks for posting and sharing... Take care
Lisa
You did great sticking to your guns with denying them. I completely agree, those that think your rules or boundaries don't apply to them prove themselves to be nightmares most of the time.
Can't believe she had the nerve to say, don't worry about 5 of them being kids!! Ha ha, you dodged a great big bullet!
Hope she doesn't catch on and try to gaslight another host by lying about the number of people in her next request.
Deborah (High Priestess)
Your guests sound like a new "bad type" -- which I will now add to my "types" of guests you don't want --this is the NINTH type of guest you dont' want on my list. I'll call this one the "It wont' be a problem!" type, or IWBAP for short. Here's how it goes with them:
Your house rules say no shoes. IWBAP says, "Oh, it won't be a problem if I wear my shoes in your house, as they aren't dirty!"
Your house rules say no smoking in the house. IWBAP guest sits inside your house smoking, holding the cigarette up to an open window, and says ,when you Remind them there is no smoking in your home, "Oh, it won't be a problem, because I'm holding the cigarette by the window!"
Your house rules say clean up after yourself when you use the kitchen, put all dishes away when you are done with the kitchen. Your IWBAP guest put several dirty dishes in the sink, walks out of the kitchen. You go and say, "Excuse me, you can't leave a sink full of dirty dishes, house rules state dishes must be cleaned and put away." IWBAP guest replies, "Oh, it won't be a problem, I will get to those in about an hour, as soon as I finish doing my emails!"
Your house rules say guests cannot bring visitors into the house, not even for a short period of time. You come home one day, and find two strangers in your home, and discover that your IWBAP guest has brought two friends into your house. You tell this guest that this is not allowed, and the IWBAP guest replies, "Oh, it won't be a problem! They will only be here for about another 45 minutes while we have tea in the kitchen! THen we'll be off on our merry little way!"
After this series of IWBAP's, it is now time to send IWBAP guest on her merry way....out of your house.
